he’s just not that into you (2009)

mp’s rating: 3.5 / 5 stars

I LOVE this movie ;). I have watched it for the second time last week and I was enlightened, well, the phrase is so true anyway ;p. Directed by Ken Kwapis, with gorgeous actors and actresses (Ben Affleck, Justin Long, Scarlet Johansson, Jennifer Anniston, Drew Barrymore, and many more!), I believe this movie represents the ‘everyday life’ in a more extreme way, when all relationships are exposed. Well, what is it then for the viewers? To steal the phrase

from another movie: it’s “the ugly truth“.

Watching the trailer for the second time refreshes the memory – once again. Well, I do not deny that this movie is mainly targeting the girls, teenagers maybe, ehm, for those girls who really like to be in a relationship, get our Romeos, and live

happily ever after, with lots and lots of dramas. But that’s not the reality. That’s the fairy tale ;). I’m not saying that I’m one of those girls, but I think it’s best to say that I’m not not one of those girls either. lol. Anyways, the movie quotes are really good, and yeah, this movie is humorous and light, I’m extremely delighted ;p

Alright here are some of my favourite quotes:

“We are all programmed to believe that if a guy acts like a total jerk that means he likes you.” Gigi

“I had this guy leave me a voicemail at work, so I called him at home, and then he emailed me to my BlackBerry, and so I texted to his cell, and now you just have to go around checking all these different portals just to get rejected by seven different technologies.
It’s exhausting.” Mary

“Girls are taught a lot of stuff growing up. If a guy punches you he likes you. Never try to trim your own bangs and someday you will meet a wonderful guy and get your very own happy ending. Every movie we see, Every story we’re told implores us to wait for it, the third act twist, the unexpected declaration of love, the exception to the rule. But sometimes we’re so focused on finding our happy ending we don’t learn how to read the signs. How to tell from the ones who want us and the ones who don’t, the ones who will stay and the ones who will leave. And maybe a happy ending doesn’t include a guy, maybe… it’s you, on your own, picking up the pieces and starting over, freeing yourself up for something better in the future. Maybe the happy ending is… just… moving on. Or maybe the happy ending is this, knowing after all the unreturned phone calls, broken-hearts, through the blunders and misread signals, through all the pain and embarrassment you never gave up hope.” Gigi

“If a guy doesn’t call you, he doesn’t want to call you.” Alex

Gigi: [Answering machine answers, Gigi’s voice:] Or call my cell, or try me at work but definitely leave a message here first. Thanks!
Alex: Hey, Gigi. It’s Alex, um, how’s it going?
[He starts to pace]
Alex: Uh, just wondering how you’re doing. I haven’t talked to you in a little while and, uh, just wondering how you’re doing.
[He sits on the couch]
Alex: So… I was hoping to talk to you… obviously. But you’re out, I guess. So, just call me some time. Or tonight, uh, in around… uh, I’ll be in around… that’s, that’s… not… now. It’s Alex. Okay.
[He hangs up the phone]
Tyrone: Dude.
Alex: [He looks down] I know.

Alright I might just have told you the whole story of the movie but yeah, I LOVE it! (maybe it’s due to the mentally and physically exhausted me the day that I watched it, plus it’s been ages since I last watch a movie). And I remind you, THIS IS NOT HEALTHY. Too much dramas… but oh well, girls like dramas (at least I do) ;)


fried my brain cells.

Hiya guys how are ya… it’s been the most, extremely hectic month ever and I don’t know why I’m still writing this post instead of doing my assignment… Well it’s not too bad actually, but I was just exhausted (physically) and somehow I’d like to take 30 mins break before I’ll resume to my psych assignment due this friday (and I have only done like 5% of it). uh-oh.

So where should I start? Maybe it’s best to start with this morning. I got up at 5.45 am and was getting ready for my work at 8. The best part is: I was living in Bulleen before and needed to go to the city for uni, and now I live in city and I need to go to Ivanhoe (two stations from Bulleen) to work. How cool is that…;p. But I really, really like my workplace, and actually I don’t mind travelling. But I just haven’t got enough sleep lately so… *sigh. Alright so I went to work, learned how to make sandwiches (and trust me, they are really YUM! ;p), and had a cup of mocha (bad, bad Marcella), and did some floor staff work. Then I traveled back to uni to meet some friends for group meeting but everyone gets mixed up with the dates so we canceled that meeting and did some individual research instead… I did some catch ups with some friends (replying emails and messages) in the train (because I was soooo sooooo busy and my memory just doesn’t serve me right… I ALWAYS forgot to reply messages and emails… horrible TT). Then I sit here in Bailleu library trying to figure out what I should do next, and decided to take a break first before I got caught up with my psych work, which I have around 3 hours to finish the draft (I WILL finish the draft by today, AMEN.). Phew, so there you go, my hectic day today.

Just to add things up, I think I mentioned before that I moved to the city just 3 days ago, and the last couple of weeks were just: hectic. My sister and I were going to uni, studying, doing assignments, working, etc and at the same time we need to search for furnitures (sofa, TV, microwave, etc), and arrange for gas, electricity, telephone, mover, internet, etc (which my sister did brilliantly. (PS. sis, if you are reading this, I LOVE YOU SOOOO MUCH for doing all those stuffs ;p). Anyway, my parents are here for holiday (yeaaaaaaa no need to cook for a while), and I need to spare some time to be with them as well so…. yeah hecticcccccc!!!!!

For the next couple of days I still need to: work, do some church stuffs, call the Australian government or whatever to have my tax file number, uni, 1 more assignment to go until holiday, 2 bloggings for 2 of my subjects in uni (1 each per week), go out with my family, catch up with some friends (I’ve been a very, very horrible friend I guess TT. I’m so sorry guys…), and… have fun! (of course ;p)

And yep, it’s pretty weird that I post these stuffs anyway, but I just feel like doing it (hahaha).. so sorry to bother you guys with some not-important-news after all…

And yeah, just for closing, right now I’m loving the song “Happy Ending” by Mika. The lyrics is not that good actually (oh well… I’m not heartbroken or something! lol) but yes I just love the song…

the best 5 hours ;)

As some of you know, I’ve just got into a training this week (*wink) ;p, which I really, really do not expect to have.  I applied with no hope at all (just “ahh… whatever.. just post the resume”) and yea, I got a call ;). I’m not ‘officially employed’ yet, but I’m really hoping to be one real soon ;).

And you know what? It’s just so great! I never ever thought that it will turn out like this. God works in mysterious ways, yes He does!!! And I’m really, really grateful! He doesn’t just give me what I want (and maybe a lil’ bit need…), but He gives me the BEST!

I have a very kind manager, assistant manager, and co-workers. The place is not really crowded, so it’s a good place to start and to learn LOTS and LOOOTSSS of new things (and I DO mean: LOTS). The things that I never knew existed, and yes, a very good environment indeed ;). I’m still struggling to know my way around, but i hope I’ll get hold of it soon…;).

And I can’t believe that as a trainee, I’m allowed to take home so many things! (like really, HEAPS of them) ;). Well, it’s maybe just like a rush excitement on your second day of training, but I think it’s a good start lol.

So I think now is a good time to sleep (sooo tired after standing for 5 hours straight) and au revoir! ;)

Life is (not) unfair

People used to say that, “life is unfair.” There are people who live in poverty and the people who live in great wealth. There are people who have everything they need without even have to work for it but there are people who fight just for a bowl of rice. There are people born with great brains that can study in 10 mins but there are people who spend 10 hours learning something and still can not figure it out. People say that life is all about inequality. It’s about unfairness. But is it?

Remember the story of Peter and John? After Jesus was risen from the dead He showed Himself to His disciples. At that time, Jesus said to Peter, “Follow me.” But Peter hesitated, and instead, he said, “Jesus, what about John? Why don’t you tell him to follow you as well?” (this ‘follow me’ context is about living a ‘hard’ life, which is Peter foresaw that he would die as a martyr). How often we are like Peter? When Jesus tells us to do this, we ask Him, “Lord, why not ‘him’?”

Sometimes in life we associate life with unfairness. And as Christians, we live our lives ‘following’ God. And God is the one who creates life. Doesn’t that mean we say, “God is unfair”? If unfairness exists in this life, and life is what God creates, does that mean God creates this unfairness, that there are the people who live in poverty and others who have great wealth? Yes, the world has sinned and the unfairness of life is happening because of the sins. But how many times we say to the Lord, “Why, Lord? Why me? Why not them? Why is life unfair to me, and not those people, Lord?” Isn’t it the same as questioning and complaining to God, blaming God?

In John 21:21 Jesus clearly says to Peter, “If I want him to remain until I come, what is that to you? you follow Me.” In other words, God says to Peter, “It’s none of your business! The thing that you need to focus is to ‘follow Me’!”

There are two critical points that can be drawn from this verse.

1. It’s not our place to judge!
Jesus clearly says to Peter, “What is that to you?” which simply means, we, as humans, do not have the rights to question God! If He wants us to be in here, to be in there, to be like this or that, we have no rights whatsoever to ask Him, not to say complaining! Maybe we see that life is unfair, that maybe sometimes we as Christians are having ‘less’ than those who do not believe in Christ. But is life really unfair? We say life is unfair because we only see through our own eyes, and not God’s! He’s the one who creates us, He’s the one who is rightful to give us 5 talents, 3 talents, or even 1 talent depending on our ability. God is fair, God is righteous. and that’s enough for us. But like Peter, we used to say, “Why?” God really tells us that it is not our place to judge!

2. focus on following God!
People usually are so entangled in seeing others, in comparing themselves with others, but the point is, “You follow Me.” It’s straight and simple, we no longer focus on ourselves, and about ‘we think we deserve something better’ and about ‘the neighbour’s grass looks greener’, but God simply calls us to ‘follow Him’. to FOCUS on following Him and doing His calling in our lives.

When life seems unfair and being a Christian may be unfair as well, we never loose sight on what’s important: Life is NOT unfair. It is us who makes it looks unfair. this should be seen through God’s glasses, and not ours. And it’s really not our place to question His authority. We need to focus on our own calling and follow God. and that all that matters.

for further resource: http://www.wholeperson-counseling.org/doc/unfair.html